Older people Getting Married

He made a public announcement so I think it’s OK to say now, so congrats to Eddie and Hanah! I dunno, I’ve been able to see them interact now for the past few months and that’s been cool, because at least to me, seeing them I think it’s clear that they mesh well together and things are gonna be great for them. I just think it’s right in all the important ways, and that’s a good feeling.

I’ve been thinking more about marriage in general recently though. I think we all realize that as people get older, just to be blunt, they start getting more desperate. I don’t think we’re at that stage yet, are we? I think for girls it kicks into overdrive the closer they get to 30. But anyway.

At any rate, sometimes when certain older people get married I wonder whether the person they marry is the best match for them, or if they’re just desperate. Not that they won’t be happy or that it’s not good, but whether for example someone they had dated earlier would have been a better match. Is that a weird thing to think about? I can’t help it.

It’s not all desperation, though. I think as you get more mature you realize more and more how much effort is really involved in making a relationship work. So I dunno, maybe traits you thought made someone impossible before turn out to be more a reflection of your immaturity at that point in life, your inability to put in the requisite work to deal with them. So maybe if you had met later in life, those things that drove you apart before wouldn’t have been such a big deal.

But then again, there’s a flip side, because the more mature you get the more you realize I think who is and isn’t right for you. I dunno, I kinda feel like that’s my experience. I think my past has helped me see all the more how right Jieun is for me.

Anyway, yeah, this is a little bad of me I guess but when older people get married (especially when it’s people in our parents’ generation getting remarried) I occasionally wonder whether they’re getting married because they finally met the right one or whether they’re getting married because they’re old, it’s time, and they’re willing to settle for what they wouldn’t have before.